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Dating and Disclosure

There is no hard and fast rule on this. My doctor says wait until the 13th or 14th date before you tell the person you have a mental health condition. By then, he or she will have seen many sides of you and will have gotten to know you for you and not your “label.”

                                                                                                                                      — Young Adult

You may want to jump in and share many things about yourself right away when dating someone new. Sometimes this happens when you feel like you connect with the other person right off the bat. However, it’s probably better to resist revealing too much about yourself. It is usually best to get to know the person first and reveal personal information little by little. It is important for the person you are dating to realize that your mental health condition is only one part of who you are. There are a great many other characteristics that help define who you are.

If the person you are dating changes his or her mind about you because of your mental health condition then it is safe to say that, that person was not right for you from the start. It’s time to move on to a person who appreciates all of you. It’s best to find someone who recognizes your strength and courage in recovery.

They should have a higher respect for you for having the courage to be honest and for the way you are able to carry yourself around them.

                                                                                                                                        — Young Adult